How to make kids realize they have made a mistake.
🔹Everyone makes mistakes n children are not exception to this.
🔷What is important how we learn from them.
🔹Yet, children grow up in a society that pressures them to be perfect n intelligent- to achieve the highest scores and get into the best universities.
🔻Parents reinforce this pressure at home when they cover up children’s mistakes, correct homework to improve grades or drill knowledge into kids until they get it right.
🔻Stress is increased when children are constantly praised for their intelligence.
🔷Making mistakes is part of how kids are challenged to learn to do things differently.
It motivates them to try new approaches.
🔻Children make many kinds of mistakes which include forgetting homework assignment or not studying for an important test.
🔹But all mistakes contain seeds of learning.
🔷Some parenting guidelines that help kids learn from mistakes.
👫Acknowledge that you don’t expect your children to be perfect.
👩👦Let them know your love is unconditional regardless of their mistakes.
👫Don’t rescue children from their mistakes. Instead,help them focus on the solution.
👨👨👦Provide examples of your own mistakes,how you learnt from them.
👨👨👦Encourage them to take responsibility for their mistakes n not blame others.
👨👩👧👧Avoid pointing out their past mistakes. Instead focus the one in hand.
👨👩👧👦Praise them for their ability to admit their mistakes.
👨👩👦👦Mentor them on how to apologise when their mistakes have hurt others.
👨👩👦👦Praise them for their efforts n courage to overcome setbacks.
Neeta Arora
Parenting Facilitator n Counsellor.